1. Remember your children
You’re angry, you’re hurt but you’re still a parent. Whatever the reasons for your divorce or seperation, your children are not the cause.
Be a role model and show your children that they are going to be okay. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your children. If the separation is managed well the children may even learn how to make good choices, build resilience and deal with difficult situations.
2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help
Whether it’s finances that have you in a muddle or you’re struggling with challenging children, don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. There are numerous resources available that will be able to provide you with assistance no matter your financial situation. Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness.
3. Take time out for yourself
Create a different set of habits and new associations – go to a different place to have a coffee. Whether it’s going to a movie, hitting a few golf balls or simply going for a walk, be sure to take moments to find simple pleasures.
4. Seven stages of grief – it’s normal to feel this way
Divorce is a life changing event – you have to accept that there is going to be hurt. In fact, you’re likely to feel the emotions attributed to grief.
5. Find a lawyer that fits
Find a lawyer that you can relate to and trust. They will need to know details that may be painful to talk about so you need to be comfortable disclosing information to your lawyer. Think about the type of person you can relate to and find a person that fits.